Self care and resilience

We've put together some great advice, on self care and resilience.

Feel free to work through the sections and watch the videos on this page to learn about stress, resilience, and self care. Find out what you can do to increase your own resilience to deal better with difficult situations.

Page updated on 12 December 2023

What is stress?

Stress can be defined as a state of worry or mental tension caused by a difficult situation. Stress is a natural human response that prompts us to address challenges and threats in our lives. Everyone experiences stress to some degree. The way we respond to stress, however, makes a big difference to our overall wellbeing.

What can cause us to feel stress

You may experience stress if you:

  • feel under lots of pressure
  • face big changes in your life
  • are worried about something
  • go through a period of uncertainty
  • don't have much or any control over the outcome of a situation
  • have responsibilities that you find overwhelming
  • experience discrimination, hate or abuse.

How can I reduce stress?

You can reduce stress if you:

  • have a good support network 
  • get more physical activity 
  • follow a healthy diet 
  • practice self care 
  • reduce your caffeine intake 
  • create boundaries and learn to say no 
  • practice mindfulness.

Why self care is important

Self care is essential to offer support to another. It helps us with good productivity, and solid decision-making abilities.

Taking care of yourself and engaging in activities that promote your wellbeing will actually improve your efficiency, which is why it's so important to prioritise your self care.

The A-B-C of self care

Hints and tips on how to look after your wellbeing.

A = Awareness

  • Events or situations that can cause one to experience an unusually strong reaction.
  • Often overpowers ones usual coping mechanisms.
  • We can get caught of guard.
  • Having an awareness can encourage a sense of control.

Improving your self awareness

  • Keep an emotions diary.
  • Reflect on behaviours.
  • Know who/what pushes your buttons.
  • Recognise and accept positive feelings.
  • Ask yourself why you do the things you do.
  • Having and setting goals in your life.

B = Balance

  • Keep your life in balance.
  • Practice excellent self care.
  • Nurture yourself by putting activities in your schedule that are sources of pleasure, joy and diversion.
  • Allow yourself to take mini escapes, these relieve the intensity of your work.
  • Transform the negative impact of your work.
  • Taking breaks/holidays.
  • Find meaning in your work/challenges.

C = Connections

  • Talk out your stress – process your thoughts and reactions with someone else (such as a co-worker, therapist, clergy, friend, family, supervisor or peer supporter).
  • Build a positive support system that supports you, not fuels your stress.
  • Pets accept whatever affection you give them without asking for more.
  • Pets are basically invulnerable to “Provider Burnout” Blood pressure and heart rate decrease when interacting with animals.

What can give us happiness

Giving
Doing nice things for others and yourself
Relating
Connecting with people
Exercising
Taking care of our body and mind
Awareness
Live life mindfully
Trying out
Learning new things
Direction
Set goals to look forward to
Resilience
Find ways to bounce back
Emotions
Look for what's good in your life
Acceptance
Be comfortable with who you are
Meaning
Be part of something bigger

What is resilience?

Resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences. It is also the ability to withstand adversity and bounce back from difficult life events. Resilience is having the ability to move through difficult times. Resilient people have common traits, we've listed some below.

  • The capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties.
  • The capacity to adapt successfully in the present of risk and adversity.
  • To adapt and overcome.
  • Successfully adjust to difficult or challenging life experiences.
  • Confront and handle stressful life event.
  • Grow and thrive in the face of challenges adversities.
  • Endure traumatic events.
  • Maintain and create a healthy outcome.
  • Knowing when to ask for help.

Barriers to resilience

  • Having a long-term physical health condition. 
  • Having a mental health problem. 
  • Experiencing discrimination and hate, including racism, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia. 
  • Living far away from family or friends, or having difficult relationships with them. 
  • Experiencing loneliness. 
  • Experiencing poverty and money worries, including debt or problems with benefits. 
  • Having excessive demands (such as being a carer or managing a family on your own). 

Resilience

  • Personal distress and growth can co-exist.
  • Resilience develops from the everyday magic of ordinary resources.
  • Resilience is not a sign of exceptional strength but a fundamental feature of normal everyday coping skills.
  • Sense of coherence is a global orientation to view the world and the individual environment as comprehensible, manageable, and meaningful. 

Antonovsky, A. (1993).

Ways to enhance our resilience and self care

  • Physical fitness (including sleep and nutrition)
  • Interpersonal fitness
  • Emotional fitness
  • Thinking/cognitive fitness
  • Behavioural fitness

Interpersonal fitness

Emotional fitness

Thinking/cognitive fitness

Behavioural fitness

Recovery

Recovery is a uniquely personal journey. It's about giving people the power to live their lives with purpose, meaning and hope for the future.

Here are some tips to aid your recovery:

  • your recovery has to be defined by YOU
  • change YOUR life, only you can do this
  • be HONEST with yourself
  • ask for HELP when needed
  • practice SELF CARE it takes time and effort.

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